We’re Just Like Everybody Else: A Week in the Life

Posted on July 11, 2011

Last week was one of those rare times when my guy was home for a whole 9 days in a row. It just doesn’t happen very often and I do miss those stretches. Not at first, but only because he’s used to staying up until midnight–two hours past my bedtime–and he’s somewhat accident prone. Bumping into doors, not being able to find his way around in the dark, walking into things and knocking them over whilst I pretend to sleep; his world, welcome to it. Then, after he would come to bed, he’d snuggle up to me and my internal engine would go into meltdown status. He froze. I fried. Anybody else have this issue with their partners?

One of the other things we tried was watching some movies together. This used to go much smoother back in the day when the selections were better. He wasn’t thrilled with any of my choices this time around, so I deferred to his wishes. We ended up watching The Priest (it sucked, no vampire pun in tended), The Source Code (it sucked worse than The Priest) and then Skyline (it sucked worse than The Priest and The Source Code to the point where we didn’t even bother finishing it). His final selection, Eagle Eye, seemed like a modern day Casablanca after the other three.

Aside from helping me with my father a bit, we also spent a great deal of time–the entire 4th of July, actually–at his father’s house cleaning and gathering up things he’d need for his upcoming move. One huge plus was being able to utilize his father’s grill during the week and did we make the best of it! Charred hot dogs–my favorite!–one night, filets the next with grilled asparagus, French bread with an onion mixture cooked into it, checkered corn and some other additional odds and ends.

These are the things I look forward to in the future when we’re finally able to live in the same state at the same time. Ralph left for the Virgin Islands yesterday. He wanted to go, but he didn’t, if that makes sense. It’s a fantastic opportunity, he loves it, he’s looking forward to it, but he misses being at home with me or at least me being at home with him. One day. One day. After my father’s Alzheimer’s has progressed to the point where I’m not needed like I am now, when Ralph’s father is in slightly better health and when I get a few more published books under my belt.

So, just a casual week with the guy trying to help get him ready for the move. Hardly the epitome of exciting, huh? On a plus note, I’ll be seeing him this next weekend in Milwaukee at Outwords Books for the Gaylias: Operation Thunderspell book signing.

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Kristoffer Gair (who formerly wrote under the pseudonym Kage Alan) is the Detroit-based author of Honor Unbound, A Funny Thing Happened On The Way To My Sexual Orientation, Andy Stevenson Vs. The Lord Of The Loins, Gaylias: Operation Thunderspell, several short stories featured in anthologies (to be combined in a forthcoming book), the recently re-published novella Falling Awake, its sequel, Falling Awake II: Revenant and Falling Awake III: Requiem.

5 Responses to “We’re Just Like Everybody Else: A Week in the Life”

Jeff says:
July 11, 2011 at 11:57 am
Sounds like a perfect week.

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Kris says:
July 11, 2011 at 1:12 pm
Like all things, it needed to be longer. =) It was a reassuring feeling to come home from work and know that he’d be there. I like those times and we don’t get enough of them.

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Neil says:
July 11, 2011 at 12:28 pm
Kris
i can so relate to the whole night time sleeping stuff and you have my sympathies. i sleep very lightly while Kris sleeps like a 6 month comatose person. he’ll stay up until 2 or 3 doing various things and i here most of the the bumps and steps. maybe after 5-6 hrs of sleep i get up at the alarm and he sleeps right thru it.
our thermos are different. i get very hot in summer and very cold in winter. he’s always hot. so winter is great when he crawls in bed with me. summers i keep the window a/c cranked high so he doesn’t bother me.
Hopefully you guys get to be together full time soon. i got lucky and kris was moved in here e months after we met and been together 6 yrs so far.

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Kris says:
July 11, 2011 at 1:14 pm
My guy loves to hit the snooze button. I’m the opposite. When the clock buzzes, it’s time to get up. Period. Also, his start time from work isn’t set in stone. I like to be in on time, start, finish and come home. That’s how my jobs have been since I was 14 years old.

6 years? Congratulations! The fun part is that you’ll keep discovering things about each other 10 years from now. It really does keep the relationship fresh and fun. =)

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arve mayake orlandez says:
July 11, 2011 at 8:18 pm
Hi Kris,

Hooray! That was wonderful week and you cant deny that you made it. I can feel it and wonder one day i can have this kind of feelings, this kind of life. Well Douglas and i been brooked up for almost 3months but we contacting each other but unlike before that there is a constant communication between us. Since he booked a ticket to fly Dubai before we havent get on trouble He will still come as his promise. This will be on august hopefully. So i need ur advice how to win his heart back again to me?..I really get confused because when i were texting each other not the same at all as before. And it came up to my mind if He loves me still He must be the same. Text, call, inboxing fb and wall posting like we did before..Im sorry i’d been talking alot, if ever he’ll be back I wud really care and this time will never end..

And for you Kris I really loved your blog..Wish also for the togetherness with your LOVE ONES..

Thank you.

Arve((: